How to resist the temptation of not feeling pretty.
Les femmes sont belles ! Las mujeres son hermosas! Le donne sono belle! Femeile sunt frumoase! Women are beautiful!
They just are ! From the little chubby baby girl who just arrived to wrinkly Granny, different color, different sizes, different shapes, different ages, culture, nationality, different anything-
W O M E N S A R E B E A U T I F U L !
In our house, I was the first granddaughter to live with the whole family. I mean the grandparents, my mom, even uncle and aunt for a while. My dear aunt Lidia often tells me how bad I terrified them while I was teething ! Ha ha that must have been hard!
I was surrendered with people who loved me and saw me as anybody sees their own child perfect, beautiful and flawless! Now that a nice complexion to start life with!
But then I've got exposed...in kindergarten ! In the beginning was nice, all the colorful toys hours to play with, oh sweet heaven but one day some smart pants question my freckles!!! How wuud (rude) is that!!!
That was a easy fix for me, my grandma has freckles so does my mom, it's just the way we are and I taught is beautiful-cuz I never heard different!
My mother was never a skinny girl. All her life she tried different diets. Some of them worked most of them did not. Often I saw her straggle but most likely those were ''moments''. Instead I will always remember the way she encouraged me when I had my ''moments'' . She told me : ,, My dear when I did not felt pretty, the way I looked, weighted or whatever it was I always told myself out loud : Ester you are beautiful, you have a beautiful body, shape, you are feminine, you are beautiful ! After all the most important thing is for you to know how beautiful you are. Remind yourself that often ! ''
Today ''beauty'' has so many different meanings, dimensions. From person to person beauty can variate. Some will call something beautiful some will not. And is true we are not the same but one thing I'll tell you, and I am sure of it : God does not make mistakes !
It's almost like beauty can not be defined by something natural, divers but most likely skinny (anorexic), flawless (full coverage makeup) or feminine (hot, sexy). And if this is what beauty means for us today...we are not less pretty but poor! Poor in knowing the true deepness of the authentic beauty.
Like every woman I have my own battles. There are moments when I just don't feel good in my own skin. And probably most of those moments have nothing to do with ,,my skin,, but the sleep deprivation I'm going thru right now (just saying)!
If you are still with me, if you feel me, here are five thoughts I remind myself to keep those moments as their ale called!
See what you can see.
Go straight to the mirror, just make sure is not the one in the living room, some talking will be involved ! Take a look and please try to ignore that pimple, crazy hair or whatever bothers you at the moment. Look in your eyes, they are unique- and you can see it ! Look at your body if you have what it takes to walk and grab stuff, you are in business and overly blessed. Then say it out loud : I am beautiful ! My eyes are beautiful, I can hear, I can walk, I can talk. I can smell, I can see well ! You are beautiful !
Understand what you are.
We are women and beside the whole hormotional part we are unpredictable, better then forecast. Sometimes for real, depends on the day we can go yeey or nay ! We have emotions, we express and live them to the max. We are a beautiful bouquet of everything, colorful and glittery.
We laugh and cry over every single thing. Till this day my dear husband can't understand how one (aka me) can burst into tears over a wrong come out of my kitchen back splash's grout color ! ! !
Often we are driven by our emotions and this may not be good 99.9 % of the time. Sometimes we just have to loosen up, let go and let God !
Know who you are (In Christ).
And this is my secret. Ladies right here is the most important of all ! To know our identity, who we are, where are we coming from and where are we going . Many years i struggled trying to figure out my identity. I had all the love i needed but my father's. And that impacted my life in many ways, and make the most of my battles.
But once I discovered my Heavenly father's love my life changed for the good and forever ! Indeed took me years to really accept God's love...such a love that I find it impossible to describe in words. Once you know who you are, haw valuable you are, how precious, how unique...you are still gonna feel the wind but you are never gonna be moved by it !
Check your diet.
When we wanna eat healthier one step we do is what I like to call, decluttering our pantry. And usually first to go are the unhealthy items. Declutter your thoughts and beliefs ! Many times we get ill because the water we are drinking from is not clean. Ask yourself who said you are not beautiful. Who told you? Maybe was a commercial, a TV show, or even a ,,friendzie,,. Whatever it was is time to declutter!
Negative thoughts, attitudes, and sometimes as harsh it sounds, even bad friends ! Time to go ! On the other hand when was the last time you've read the Bible and you felt less pretty? It's time for us to connect, re-connect with the TRUTH ! And then - P.A.S Pray and Stay to see what God has to say ! After all He is our Creator, our Father ! He knows the best, we are His!
Be beautiful !
Beautify the journey. Spread the love. See the bouquet in my hands above, few flowers yet all different and so beautiful just like us women ! Be different appreciate the value inside out, the true beauty in every soul. Make the difference do good and trust God.
You are beautiful and wonderfully made !